DEAR DEIDRE: EVEN though my boyfriend gives me lots of kisses and cuddles we only have sex twice a month if I’m lucky.
I am 24 and he is 25. We have been together for almost a year.
When we first started seeing each other we were making love every night and it was fantastic.
Our honeymoon phase only lasted for a couple of months.
I didn’t expect it to go on for ever but a life with so little intimacy is getting me down. I can’t help wanting more.
The lack of passion makes me feel unattractive and unloved, even though he says he loves me.
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I really want to make this relationship work.
I keep wondering whether he has found somebody else.
If I could check his phone I would, but he has a password on it.
Am I being paranoid? I trust him but I am only human.
I don’t want to be in a sexless relationship.
If nothing changes I am worried I might be tempted to cheat.
MORE FROM DEAR DEIDRE
DEIDRE SAYS: It is not usual for a guy of your boyfriend’s age to want so little sex, but it doesn’t sound like he is cheating.
It could be that he is depressed or stressed out at work.
If so, encourage him to see his GP.
Tell him you love him.
Say you want to make your relationship work but that you’re finding it hard to live without sex.
My support pack Reviving A Man’s Sex Drive explains self-help.
