A MUM has revealed she’s been branded “desperate” by huffy guys – all for choosing to have a baby without a fella.
Heather McCartney, 36, has longed for a second child and feared it would never happen because she hadn’t met the right guy.
Heather was ready for a second child but didn’t want a partner[/caption]
But her motherhood journey turned when she realised she didn’t need to enter a relationship to give her daughter the younger sibling she’s always wanted.
Now she’s expecting after handpicking a donor based on criteria she requested like age, health and other non-negotiables.
Heather, who left Ayrshire for Australia after beating blood cancer and escaping her violent ex-husband, said: “My daughter has been begging for a sibling for years, and I just feel like it’s time to expand the family.
“I’ve always wanted more kids, and the love I have for my daughter makes me want to give her that sibling bond.
“Using a donor felt like the right choice for me to get the family I’ve always wanted, without any of the stress or complications.”
She added: “Relationships can be wonderful, but they can also come with a lot of stress and drama. I’ve had my fill of that, to be honest.
“Going the solo route means I’m in control, and there’s no drama—just me, my daughter, and our future little one.
“It’s definitely easier in a way that I get to decide how things go, without any of the ups and downs that can come with dating.
But the former Maxim model has revealed she’s received some backlash since sharing her baby news.
She told Fabulous: “It’s only the guys getting pissed off about my decision, it’s the men getting defensive and taking the huff.
“In person I’ve had a couple of weird, cheeky comments from people who I thought were okay.
“Guys are going in a huff saying every kid needs a dad when they haven’t grown up with single mothers. Mums can do it all.
“Maybe they’re realised they’re replaceable.”
She adds: “There’s guys who I’ve never given the impression would have a chance with me saying they’d be a donor as well.
“They’re missing the point that I didn’t want to know who the dad was
“I’ve never given the impression that it was a possibility.
“Do they feel that I went that route because I’m desperate? It’s because I don’t want the person around.
“It’s maybe a kind gesture but it’s creepy.”
Despite some of the comments, Heather has zero regrets about her decision.
“It’s the safest option for me to do this and not have anyone in my life”, she insists.
She continues: “I’m not waiting around, I want to start my own clan around here.
“I feel like folk are moving with the times and that more women are supportive because they think it’s good idea and realise they wouldn’t have had as much drama.”
